So how do you parent emotionally connected boys and men?
Firstly, let them cry. Most boys have learnt that it is not ok to cry in public by the time they are 3. Instead, let your child cry, offer them comfort and in their own time they'll stop, without you telling them to.
Secondly, ask them how they are feeling and how others might be feeling. The ability to locate your own emotions and identify what someone else is feeling is called emotional intelligence and it's essential to developing healthy relationships.
Thirdly, model healthy masculinity. Say sorry when you do something wrong. Explain that it's ok to be afraid. Be sad in front of them. Give them a model to follow.
By doing these things we can help them to take off the mask, and never pick it up again.
Thanks for reading,